"How to be Confident - Tips For Men"

MEN!

What does the dynamic, 9 letter word, 'confident' mean for you?

First off, confidence or confident as found in Copywriter31's Lexicon reads: 'Confident' - "a trait men must possess for successful mutual attraction with the opposite sex."

That definition is complete, assuming learning how to enjoy the steady company of one or many ladies is your reason for reading this hub.

Some would say confidence is a gift from the gods, but I reckon a low self-esteemed, no-confident man can become a James Bond lady slayer by simply following The Copywriter31 Tip Sheet listed below:

TIP 1: Dress like the hip somebody you are NOW; not the way you were when you had no confidence.

Pick up a GQ mag and find something that will compliment the new, trendy man of men. You know, the confident man now attracting women... YOU!

This recommendation is placed in the number 1 position for a reason. It's THE most critical feature on the list. If you ignore the rest, always remember to dress as you are the only male in the room showing utmost self-esteem and confidence. Works every time - GUARANTEED!

While you are dressing to the 9s, get a hair style that fits your image. The two go together like love and marriage.

TIP 2: Report to CLASS!

Open the car door for her (this may p.o. libbers out there, but libbers don't date, so it doesn't matter.)

If your first meeting is a restaurant affair, keep the conversation flowing with generally ordinary things, meaning don't ask her, "After dinner, how about a wrestling match at my place?" Save those questions to ask later in the relationship. Start s-l-o-w-l-y, and don't dominate the entire conversation.

Give her your full attention, and this ties in with -

Never stare at or flirt with another woman when you are on a date... This stupid action is likely to ruin your climb to confidence heaven.

TIP 3: How to be cool

Hot women are only attracted to cool men, so act and be cool.

I'm not talking 'Fonzie cool'... totally out of date. Clooney, Pitt, Osbourne (in all likelihood you never heard of Osbourne - he's the heart throb of every woman living in Buna, Texas. There, he's known as "The Playboy of Buna.")

Being cool personality traits:

• Act slightly aloof or distant.
• Don't flap your gums trying to engage in every conversation.
• Show some reserve like you know something the rest of the crowd doesn't. A sly smile can make this happen. But, if your smile reveals a grill with missing parts, find another way... or a reputable dentist!
• ALWAYS show a calm, composed and steady demeanor.
• Show some, "I'm enjoying myself, but I could care less if this relationship works out or not"... NOTICE, I said show some. A thin line exists using this tactic, and you better understand when to shift gears if she begins playing the same ' could care less' game. Tread lightly here.
• A cool man is self confident; he always has it together! Be that man.

TIP 4: Train Your Flabby Body

Hit the gym, the weight room or any exercise facility. To achieve self-esteem and confidence, you must be proud of your body.

Think about it: Wouldn't you agree that your confidence peaks, your self-esteem naturally climbs and the natural endorphins kick in when you engage in a regular workout routine?

Well then, "Just Do It". Don't think about it. Leave this hub right now (as engrossing as it most assuredly is) and go to your area of activity.

Women are attracted to muscles - beer guts never win the girl.

By the way, a gym is a great place to display your confident, muscular body because most every gym is co-ed. I promise you, many women go there for the workout, but their eyes are always shooting reconnaissance lasers in the direction of some confident, well-built and in-shape guy. Got it, men?

TIP 5: Be Prepared

When the late golfer, Ben Hogan began his march to bang practice balls before a golf tournament, he assessed every pro preparing for the tournament. He noticed less-than confident players tweaking their swings on the range and rapped out this now-famous quotation:

"Fellas, if you didn't bring it with ya', you won't find it here."

In other words, when it's your tee time you better be oozing a solid self-esteem backed with supreme confidence.

If you 'didn't bring it with ya' you will be ignored, scorned, and turned down EVERY time you hit the local bar scene or wherever you choose to meet women.

TIP 6: Sense of Humor

Women like men who are not only attractive and confident, but a strong sense of humor goes a long way on the way to self-esteem achievement.

Let's say you've achieved all the self-confident, high self-esteem traits found in this hub, and you are still striking out. Check your sense of humor.

If you are playing the field with NO sense of humor... then

Don't give up.

Hope springs eternal... or something like that.

You need not be a Seinfeld to have a strong sense of humor.

Here is the key!

Simply lighten up, relax - AND BE YOURSELF.

Learn to laugh at yourself. We all, occasionally, play the proverbial fool,... Share those crazy gaffs. This shows the woman you are comfortable in your own skin. You are only talking to another human being; lighten up!.

Summing Up

Finally, single women are NOT interested in nervous, goofy, or weak men. By now, you should understand this truism.

Take inventory of YOUR unique personality, look for areas you can change and FOLLOW MY TIPS... They will work for you, but you can't force attraction. Yes, these 6 tips will create every possibility for mutual attraction, but sometimes, men, the 'no chemistry' factor is going to occur. When this happens, move on and keep on being cool. Your success rates will skyrocket!